Unless a miracle happens, I will be officiating my third funeral (EVER) sometime in the next few weeks. My grandmother, who is 92, is dying and (according to my cousin who is a critical care nurse and keeps track of her condition) most likely has only days left to live. Nani (as I call her) asked me years ago to do her funeral. The rest of the family is totally OK with this. I know that Nani has picked out the music she wants, but nothing else has been planned. It's up to me and my Aunt Kate.
Normally, I'd be able to plan the service with no problems whatsoever. However, my grandmother is Unitarian, as is her companion (Piet) and my Aunt Kate. With the exception of my mother, everyone else in my mom's family is essentially a secular humanist with a little bit of generic spirituality thrown in for good measure. Feelings toward faithful Christians (like me and my mom) range from tolerance to suspicion. Both my mom and I get the sense that everyone thinks that we're to the right of Jerry Falwell, Jr. Which we're not, by the way. By any means. In fact, I really have a distaste for the sort of theology and practice that Rev. Falwell advocates. He probably would think that I'm a bleeding liberal, since I'm a woman in ministry AND I've been heard to affirm the gifts of an "open and out" homosexual.
The bottom line is, this service needs to be spiritual, but still be fairly secular. How do I plan that sort of service while still maintaining my own integrity as Christian clergy? I would love suggestions on readings, prayers/meditations, and the like. They can be from any tradition or be totally secular. She wants it to be a short service (which I take to mean 30-45 minutes, tops). I want it to be a celebration of her life, but I also want to keep my integrity, honor her memory, and piss off as few family members as possible.